Today I was gossiping with Amit uncle, he is dad’s friends
and a divorce lawer, in between our gossips I suddenly asked him “Uncle
according to you, why do people divorce and in love or arrange marriage divorce
rate is higher?
He replied “Of course beta , love marriage now a days” I was
stubborned for some moments and after few minutes he gave me a large lecture
about causes of divorce! See below.
The most common reason are cheating spouse, lack of mutual
understanding between the couples. Look behind a decade ,you will understand
what is true love, what is caring , what is mutual undestanding and
responsiblities between the couples, they were in such a joy of life , they use
to sort out every problem themselves.
To become a perfect couple both should be mutual
understanding in nature and in any case they both can manage any situation in
the life and only divorce like situation could not happens, this is one kind of
analysis.
But things has changed a lot, now a days People are in
blindly in love, I don’t know these are love , attraction or fashion due to
which people could not find true love. But I know still true love is exists but
it is rare to find. When a person is in
love , for him/her everything is good and having lots of expectation from each
other, but things are very different after marriage, they expect the same stuff
after marriage, but when they are unable to cope up with that, a lot of stress,
trouble, illegal love affairs arise, which is not a good sign of healthy
relation. As if the things go worse they think of getting ride of each other
instead of thinking how to sortout the situation.They show their real character
after marriage. I think if love is blind then marriage is eye opener.
In arrange marriage both are unknown to each other, they don’t
know what are his and her like/dislikes, they never been together and entered
into a new life, hence their love grow slowly and exists lifetime. But in some
cases both the couple can’t cope with each other may be due to his/her
character, cheating, family reasons, mis understanding etc which leads to
divorce.
In my view love marriage will be more succesful if someone have found true love, if they both
have mutual understanding and cope with each other and will give most value to
their relation than anything else.
Wheteher in love marriage or arrange marriage, to build a
happy life without any situation like divorce one should try to give much time
to improve the love, maintain good family relation, and mutual understanding
between wife and husband.
So this was his lecture (My God! I will never ask him anything! ) :-)
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